Choices

Disclaimer: The opinions expressed here are my own. They are my thoughts, my beliefs, and my understandings. They are in no way accurate or meant to offend anyone. So please don’t crucify me for the following comments.




We have recently learned that my stepsister is a lesbian. She currently has a girlfriend, and while I’m still a little unclear of the details, until the last few days, I was pretty sure that she was straight. She is after all married to a man, has 2 children, and has never thought about women in that capacity.

Which brings me to my next point, and probably the one that will piss off so many gay people. I believe that gay is a choice. I don’t think that God screwed up and gave you the wrong parts, or the wrong feelings or anything else like that. God doesn’t make mistakes. Period. I also still believe that the bible is accurate and should be used for guidance, if you want to follow in God’s footsteps and get to heaven. I was raised that gay is immoral, and wrong.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I have no problem with gay people. I have a good friend on facebook who is gay. He is funny, smart, has great taste, interested in some of the same things that I am, but he prefers men to woman, and always has. He is also an atheist, and we both agreed a long time ago to not discuss religion. He thinks that God is capable of making mistakes and that the bible is outdated and unrealistic to use for guidance in today’s world. So we don’t talk about it, I don’t tell him he is going to hell, I just let him have his own opinion, and his own choice, even though I believe, based on my own morals that he is incorrect.

I think that Debbie made a choice. She is still married, and in my opinion, she is committing adultery as well. Which I believe is wrong too. Do I still love her? Absolutely. Do I think that she is making a huge mistake? You bet. Is it my choice? Absolutely not. Do I think that she makes a huge mistake when she feeds her kids junk for dinner instead of vegetables? You bet. But it’s her choice. And whether or not I agree with the choices that she makes or not is beside the point. I’m pretty sure that there are choices that I have made in my own life that she wouldn’t agree with. But she respects me enough to not tell me what an idiot she thinks I am.

I’m not going to shove my religion down her throat; I’m not going to tell her that she is wrong. All I’m going to do is love her. Even though I believe that the choices she is making are bad ones, choices that will put her on a different path spiritually as well as mentally from the rest of the family. I’m sad for the hurt that this choice has inflicted on her children and her husband.

She is family, and whether or not I agree with her choices, I have chosen to respect them. I’ve chosen to remind her children that she loves them and that sometimes, even adults make choices that hurt other people, and that life isn’t always fair. It probably won’t hurt that I’m going to send lots of prayers to her, as she is going to need strength, because no matter what, this isn’t a choice that she can walk away from without changing someone’s life. No matter what, whether I agree or not, she deserves my respect. The Bible tells me so.

~It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. ~Roy Disney

~When one bases his life on principle, 99 percent of his decisions are already made. ~Author Unknown

~The hardest thing to learn in life is which bridge to cross and which to burn. ~David Russell